Chauncey: Welcome to the Being Found Show. We are here to help you be found by buying customers online. When people are searching for your services or products online, are they finding you or are they finding your competitors? I’m your host, Chauncey, filling in for Cloud Wise Joe. I am here with my side-kick, Jake.
We want to talk about what motivates you to succeed and how to harness it. I had a funny thing happened to me on the way down here. I constantly find myself like looking at other people in their lives and then relating it to my own life and either asking what exactly did I do wrong or what exactly did I do right to be in this situation.
My biggest motivation, personally, is my kids. The first question that popped up for me was if you aren’t happy with what you are doing in life, why do you continue to do it? We live in this world where everybody has been told do what you love and anything less than that, you’re not doing it right. We also live in a world where I’m guessing nobody loves flipping burgers, but everybody loves eating them. So we need people to flip burgers.
The advice that I’ve told my kids is number one, do what you love, but if that doesn’t work out, number two, do what you’re good at so that you can afford to do what you love when you’re not working. It’s okay to have a starting point. Eventually landing in a career where you do what you’re good at is definitely where it’s at.
Jake: I am a new father, so my motivation comes from something a little bit different. The finances are more important than they used to be. They are tighter, which I think those things are always correlating. I have more mouths to feed, and I have to make sure I’m doing a good job at work and keep us on the budget we have to stay on.
Chauncey: Before you had the kids, you were hardworking, and your wife was hardworking. What was your motivation before you had the kids?
Jake: This is a loaded question. Doing a good job at work is motivating enough. Doing a good job has intrinsic value, and it has its own rewards.
Chauncey: The reason why I’m asking is that I’ve found myself throughout my life feeling motivated and then not motivated and I’m at this point in my life where my kids are moving out, and they’re moving on. For the past 17 or 18 years, my motivation has been to not mess up with the kids. Fear has been a grand motivator for me.
I was totally irresponsible 17 years ago. Then all of a sudden I have a baby and I’m raising a baby by myself. I’m holding the baby, and I’m sitting there with five roommates in a pile of beer cans holding a baby going like, what am I going to do? I basically screwed up everything in my entire life. But if I screw this one up, I have a life of guilt and possibly prison, you know. Fear has been the great motivator. But here I am now trying to find a new motivation because my kids are raised and moving onto different chapters of their lives.
That’s really what prompted my topic. I always tell myself to fake it till I make it. I’m not sure if that’s really a good thing. That’s kind of like not accepting your limitations and not accepting who you are to make those changes. It’s sort of like spending your life trying to shove a square peg into the round hole; fake it till you make it. Because sometimes maybe that just doesn’t work. I lean more towards a newer phrase that I have come upon, which is failing forward.
I’m at a job where every day, I have to fail forward but it is ok. If you screw it up, that’s kind of like faking it till you make it. I just liked the idea of failing forward better because you try something new and maybe you don’t make it the first time, so you try it again. It does seem like a little more honest of an approach. Fake it till you make it seems like you make a mistake, and you accepted it for what it was and didn’t put in the effort to try again. Failing forward means, “I made a mistake and I’m going to learn and move on from it.”
That was my other point of this discussion. Where do you have to accept your limiting points and where do you have to move on? Where do you have to say that you need to either hire some help or hire a teacher to get past this roadblock?
My main advice is not to load up so much debt where you are afraid to try new things that you may be better-equipped to do and excel at. I’ve been able to switch careers in my life because I didn’t have a ton of debt and I wasn’t afraid to quit my job. Don’t let fear drive those decisions that you’re making to find what you love or what you’re well equipped to do. Get those shackles off your feet so you have the freedom to try something else.
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